Or
is it really a craze? Or have I just
become my old man, who cannot adjust to contemporary social patterns
and practices?
by Charlie Leck
by Charlie Leck
I was with two
of the Grandkids this weekend at one of those indoor water park hotels – and so
was beaucoup le monde, as the French
say. It’s an incredible place for people watching and, so, I did.
After a day of
observation, I asked my daughter and son-in-law if they had any thoughts about
the tattoo fascination of the current young generation. I read somewhere that
it is an effort to achieve marking as
an individual.
I want very much
to throw up my hands and scream that “I don’t like them!” However, I’m not too
sure that this would be true. In fact, there are some of them that are
appealing to me. Why those are always the ones near the cleavage of a good looking
woman’s breasts is beyond me.
No, really! I’m
just kidding! Why do people get tattoos? Do they have a reason? Or is just a
moment of temporary insanity? Are they really searching for some sense of
identification through them? Couldn’t they just be satisfied with the fact that
they have a slightly larger nose than average or very keen, bright
yellowish-green eyes?
In fact, there were a surprising number of women with tattoos at the water
park. On the back of one or the other shoulder seemed to be a favorite with
them, or high up on a thigh. I tried to examine the women, looking for
character hints or an instability in the eyes. I saw none of that and,
therefore, could not confirm my prejudices.
Some people want
to call this phenomenon a defiling of the body. In some cases, perhaps! One
fellow at the hotel had tattoos from throat to ankles – dozens of them it
seemed – and that seemed a bit like defiling. I hadn't the camera with me at the moment. The amateur psychologist in me
wanted to ask: “Are you hiding something, or do you hate your body that much?”
Perhaps it is something else! Exhibitionism? A lack of any feeling of individualism
– you know, that confidence that we are indeed unique, interesting and individual? Who
knows?
Years ago I
could encounter a tattoo and feel quite certain there was a story behind it?
You know, a failed love affair – or an assignment in Korea – or a stay in
prison! An elderly friend of mine – you know, my age – has a tattoo on his
hand. He wishes he didn’t, even though it’s barely visible. It’s from a time in
the Navy, when he was on leave in some port or other and was bored out of his mind.
It’s a small rose that was meant to remind him of something he’s long
forgotten.
Down there at
the water park, my daughter, using her smart phone, hunted down this poem by
Ted Kooser for me…
Tattoo
What
once was meant to be a statement—
a dripping dagger held in the fist of a shuddering heart—
is now just a bruise on a bony old shoulder,
the spot where vanity once punched him hard
and the ache lingered on.
He looks like someone you had to reckon with,
strong as a stallion, fast and ornery,
but on this chilly morning, as he walks between the tables at a yard sale
with the sleeves of his tight black T-shirt rolled up to show us who he was,
he is only another old man, picking up broken tools and putting them back,
his heart gone soft and blue with stories.
a dripping dagger held in the fist of a shuddering heart—
is now just a bruise on a bony old shoulder,
the spot where vanity once punched him hard
and the ache lingered on.
He looks like someone you had to reckon with,
strong as a stallion, fast and ornery,
but on this chilly morning, as he walks between the tables at a yard sale
with the sleeves of his tight black T-shirt rolled up to show us who he was,
he is only another old man, picking up broken tools and putting them back,
his heart gone soft and blue with stories.
Ted Kooser from Delights & Shadows,
Copper Canyon Press, Port Townsend, WA 2004
Copper Canyon Press, Port Townsend, WA 2004
U.S. News and
World Report, in 2010, estimated that there were approximately 15,000 tattoo
parlors in the United States and that 15 percent of Americans were “sporting”
tattoos.
I told a friend –
who is 60 or so -- that I was struggling with this blog – that no one seemed to
have a handle on the tattoo and why it is so popular. This friend is one of the
wisest and most loquacious guys I know. I was sure he’d have a take on the fad.
“No idea,” he
said. Then he asked if tattoos bothered me and, if they did, that would be a
more interesting theme of concern.
“No, they don’t
bother me! It’s just that I was shocked to see so many of them on the under
forty crowd, and the size and placement of them. It sent me thinking. That’s
all!”
“I’ll email you
a photo. You can use it if you want, but don’t attach my name to it anywhere!
We’ve never been swimming together, so it will surprise you.”
My email this
morning included the photograph my friend and I were talking about – of one of
his thighs. A little note said simply: “I was pretty drunk the night I got
this!”
Oh, my!
I have no tattoos! Perhaps I should. I wonder if those tattoo parlors offer senior discounts. Let's see! On the side of my neck! A big heart, perhaps, with a flowing ribbon across it. And, on the ribbon, is inscribed the name of "Mildred Ann," my mother!
I guess not! I don't drink that much!
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